How I met Oprah—
“I met Oprah because I told my truth,” says Mary Havens, a survivor and activist against domestic violence and sexual assault. After twenty years of being silenced, Mary has bravely told her story in the recently released memoir—The Shadows in My Heart.
The Shadows in My Heart offers strength and hope to the women and men who endure the struggles associated with domestic violence and abuse and reassures them that it is indeed possible to create a better life. Not only is Mary’s story a testament to that better life, it is irrefutable proof of the power of persistence, resilience, and love.
I had the honor of speaking to Mary after watching Oprah’s now famous Golden Globe speech #TimesUp. In her speech Oprah said, “A new day is on the horizon. And when that new day finally dawns, it will be because of a lot of magnificent women…and some pretty phenomenal men, (are) fighting hard to make sure that they become the leaders who take us to the time when nobody ever has to say, ‘me too’ again.”
When I asked Mary to offer her own words of wisdom she said, “If something is done to you, tell someone. If you meet resistance, find someone else who believes you. It takes an average of seven times to leave an abusive situation. Focus on the support around you. Trust your own intuition.”
Today Mary finds joy in front of a crowd inspiring others to speak their truth. I wish to thank Mary for being one of the many “magnificent women” that stand together, tells their truth, and say #TimesUp.
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