Gutsy Goddess: Talulah Ruby
“…you see the blue centerlight pop and everybody goes “Awww!” Jack Kerouac, On the Road
Gutsy Goddess Talulah Ruby– “The greatest lesson I took away is that there is never a ‘time’ to do anything… Either you do or you don’t. Fear held me back; I pushed those boundaries to face a world of diversity and difference. Fear cannot be a valid reason to not do something. I use it to my advantage and see it as an open invitation to prove my instincts wrong. Embrace fear and (literally) throw yourself in the deep end.”
Favorite quote—
“The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars and in the middle you see the blue centerlight pop and everybody goes “Awww!”― Jack Kerouac, On the Road
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I love this picture … and I am so envious you got to swim with the whales in Tonga. We so wanted to do that!!! Cheers and keep on singing! And love the quote!
Thanks for inviting me
Thanks so much for being a part of this. If you ever have a song, quote or brave book to share we can all use some inspiration. You are always welcome.
Love the photo. Can’t wait to read more about your adventures.
Thanks so much. Would love to hear of your adventures too!
Beautiful
Amazing, can’t wait to read more 🙂
Beautiful image. Can’t wait to hear more!
Beautiful photo!!!
Can’t wait to hear more about your travels!!! It takes a very strong, unique person to do what you did! Kudos!!!
Love it! Can’t wait to read more!
I’m looking forward to reading more of your experiences. Can’t wait to love the Love.
I cannot wait to hear more—please keep sharing your path!
I love to sail, but have not had the opportunity to gain enough confidence. I just finished your book. Although luckily, I have not experienced violence in my life, I could really relate to your life. As most of my partners female partners have been molested and abused. I too have wondered if part of their pain and ill illnesses related back to their abuse.
Thank you so much Karen both for reading my book and for posing such an important question. Thanks too for reaching out and trying to better relate to those who have experienced trauma. I’m sorry you’ve to deal with that. While I of course can’t speak for all survivors I can say that many people who have experienced trauma, myself included, carry pain which impact(s) health and relationships. An excellent resource for scientific information on this is the well-researched book The Body Keeps Score by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk. I have also had the good fortune to work with Dr. Anne Hallward a Harvard Medical School MD on this who says that many survivors carry secrets that have been silenced (by perpetrators and society) and that the average age for women who have been abused or assaulted as a child or teen to tell their stories is age 52. I believe it is critical to tell our secrets to compassionate listeners and therapists to aid in the healing process. Sometimes we don’t even know what our secrets are without having extensive help from therapists. I carried my story along with shame and rage that I wasn’t fully aware of for dozens of years. I believe it impacted my health, relationships, and also who I attracted as life partners. Gradually telling my full story took about 49 years. For me, my release of the shame and rage in the middle of the Pacific ocean was life changing. I now feel so much freer and happier. I wrote a “calming practice” workbook with Dr Anne Hallward called Knowing Acts—Engage in Healing that has been distributed to rape crisis centers, domestic violence centers, and women’s prisons. It has beautiful illustrations and easy to try exercises to use in conjunction with therapy. I believe there is a page in the back of my book that shows this workbook. For me, developing a calming practice through my book, along with therapy, was vital to my healing. Anyway, the short answer is trauma can and does cause pain and illness, but not all pain and illness is caused by trauma. If you have further questions or insight do please contact me. I do apprecite your courage and thoughtfulness in reaching out. I also wanted to say best of luck in gaining sailing experience and FAIRWINDS!