Gutsy Goddess—Judith

"Go out in nature and just be. Let the waves of the oceans, the great lakes heal you." Judith

Keep an open mind and open heart.

The biggest life challenge I have learned to cope with is the sudden tragic unexpected loss of my husband. He was killed July 27th of 2011 while riding his bicycle.  We would have been married 37 years that November.  

One of the greatest learnings I have experienced is that life goes on.  We grow, we learn, we experience deep sorrow, we grieve.  We never quit hurting when the love of our life is gone.  Grief changes shape and sadness turns to joy and laughter.  We learn to enjoy life again and create new memories.  We allow the sadness and memories to trickle out of our eyes when need be.

Since his death I have created a 20 minute short documentary titled GHOSTBIKE that has been in several film festivals throughout the United States.  I have just written a book, titled Remember His Name that will be available soon.  These two creative endeavors have helped with my own healing and their purpose is to help others learn about tragedy, healing, hope and forgiveness.

My words of wisdom: we are not alone.  It is okay to ask for help and I encourage that, as often as necessary.  Go out in nature and sit, walk, just be.  Let the waves of the oceans, the great lakes heal you. Travel, see and experience new places and new things.  Breathe, remember to breathe.  Exercise any way you enjoy.  Bicycling, running, fast walking, swimming, feel your body, enjoy it and love it.  Love yourself.  Take time for you.  Be grateful!  Write a gratitude list daily.  Pray, journal, meditate and learn about chakras.  Keep an open mind and open heart. I am just so excited and grateful to be alive, to experience this glorious life!

What challenges have you overcome and what words of wisdom might you share? Please join the conversation. You never know who you might inspire or where it might lead.

To learn more about Judith please click here.

To order Judith’s book Remember His Name click here.

To watch Judith’s movie Ghostbike click here.

Admin note: Judith has become an activist against distracted driving. To learn more about distracted driving please click here.

To read about other Gutsy Goddesses click here.



  1. I’m so sorry for your loss, Judith. What I’ve learned is that you never ‘get over’ losing someone you love, you just learn to take one step, then another…like you, being in nature has always been my salvation.

    • admin_laughingatthesky November 4, 2017 at 11:25 am

      Linda, thanks for commenting. I find your insight inspirational…”one step, then another. Sometimes moving forward can seem overwhelming yet if we concentrate on just one step—that can be a perfect start. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  2. Such a beautiful philosophy of life. Thank you for sharing it!

    • admin_laughingatthesky November 4, 2017 at 11:27 am

      Thanks Kim. I’m grateful that you stop by and commented, and even more so that you find her philosophy beautiful as did I.

  3. It’s so true that grief and sorrow don’t go away; they simply change shape. What a great way to put it.

  4. Am so sorry for your loss, Judith. Agree with you that we never quit hurting and we never really stop loving them, but we just learn to live without them!

  5. “Go out in nature and sit, walk, just be. Let the waves of the oceans, the great lakes heal you.”
    Thank you for sharing this incredibly moving story.

  6. What wise advise, Judith. The tragedies of life are bearable and can be surmounted when one knows she or he is not alone. Thanks for sharing.

  7. Thanks for sharing this incredibly inspiring and moving story.

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